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Jasmyn (she/her) and Celeste (she/her) know each other since middle school and were in a romantic relationship 7 years ago. They have given their love a second chance and they recently got together again. As they navigate the challenges their current connection is giving them, they also cherish and are grateful for what they have and how far they’ve become as individuals and as a couple.
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is a little more commitment or certainty.
I know you do. - That’s such a good word.
And I can't give it to you,
and I haven't. I'm sorry.
I've told you, Like this time around,
I can't- I won't lose you.
Yeah. - But I think that's something that
you need that I'm not giving you.
Describe what you remember
most from the first time we met.
And the second time we met
Do you want middle school? I remember... - I want every-
Every first time. We have, like,
I don't really remember middle school.
I just remember, you know, I don't think-
Middle school was like...
What do you remember from middle school?
That you were just goofy.
And I feel like I was a goofy kid too, but
like you were on another level.
Like, who is this kid? Like, girl, go away!
randomly, like, ran into each other,
I don't know if it gave confidence
it just gave, like, you knew yourself.
like me in high school was very like
And then, I mean, seven years now.
it was so unexpected but like,
and, and like, nerve wracking.
everybody on my phone when you were like,
I was like: Jasmyn said yes?!
when I say I probably called anybody
And then all my friends were like:
honestly, they were like: “Thank God”,
because we’re sick of this.
I just like my heart, you know, like,
Oh it is. - Yeah, it is yours.
What do you think has shaped me the most
to be ready for this relationship?
We just talked about this.
and your divorce has shaped you the most.
that us being together seven years ago,
you just didn't have the communication
You needed to go through things
or mature or just kind of focus on you.
But I definitely think that your marriage
you to be ready for this relationship,
because it made you also realize
to the person you married.
And I think it made you realize, like,
this is where you want to be
you've done like... like you've been doing
everything that you need to do
You've changed so many things that
have been previous issues for us
So I think that you had to go through that
and then therapy, you needed that.
We both did, we both did, but- - Shout-out to therapy.
I feel like you just have
now to communicate with me.
So many great resources to just
be present in this relationship now.
Yeah. - I'm glad you agree.
You didn't have a choice.
If you could go back and change
anything about our relationship,
what would it be and why?
I'm so excited to hear this answer.
What would it be and why?
I wish that I had the tools to be alone,
like during us and after us.
just like finding whoever
I could fill my space with. Right?
And then that led me to being
and just not liking to be alone.
and so I think had I been able to deal
it's like it was like a number of things,
like being afraid to be alone,
feeling like unproductive,
feeling anxious when I'm alone,
like always trying to distract my time.
I think I also then would have known
Versus like sitting in it.
You thought you'd get over me?
But yeah, like, you know,
like when you feel the feelings
and you allow yourself to sit with them.
I think that it allows you
to be present within yourself
like I do that now and then
that's how I probably ended up
because I know what I want.
How do you think- wait, how do you think...
how do you think what happened in
our past is limiting our future?
I wouldn't say I'm scared,
but I'm definitely like... not scared.
I don't know what the feeling is but
I would love to marry you.
I'd love to be with you forever.
Like not saying you don't give me the best.
Just like I deserve better since that
I'm not your second wife.
I am your love of your life.
I am not your second wife. - Yeah.
And that's what I would be.
from our past is limiting our future.
The more I think about it,
like it's immature of me.
So you- - Grow up and get past that.
Of course. - Oh, okay, then we're good.
Because then I’d be ruining my own happiness.
is presently the biggest challenge
And what is that offering us?
have created an insecurity
And I think that I'm aware of it.
So, like, when you trip or like
when I see that you're feeling a way
like I give the space for it
because I know that it's not me
and I know that I wouldn't do anything
intensify those feelings.
the space to grow and allows
a love that you can feel safe in
and that you can feel confident knowing
like those insecurities won't get,
you know, brought up or acted on.
And so I think that, yeah, it allows
like safe, healthy, pure love for you.
because I definitely feel-
It is very safe and comforting.
This you’re going to be like: ‘Oh.’
What does my love feel like?
Isn’t that good? That's good.
You want a tissue? No tissue? Okay. Alright.
It makes me feel comforted
That's why I say it feels like a sunset.
I tell you our love is like a sunset.
what would you never want me to forget?
It would never be our last conversation.
I’ll make sure to leave a voicemail
or like 12 of them or something.
But I probably would do something-
like one for each year: ‘Hey girl!’.
Like if that last one was the last one,
you deserve everything you want
that doesn't have to come
but like, have that for yourself, too.
accept that and I trust it
I would never want you to forget it
like the love I have for you
and that like you always have a space
And don’t let anybody tell you different.
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Transcript
What I think you need from me
is a little more commitment or certainty.
I know you do. - That’s such a good word.
And I can't give it to you,
and I haven't. I'm sorry.
I've told you, Like this time around,
I can't- I won't lose you.
Yeah. - But I think that's something that
you need that I'm not giving you.
Describe what you remember
most from the first time we met.
And the second time we met
Do you want middle school? I remember... - I want every-
Every first time. We have, like,
I don't really remember middle school.
I just remember, you know, I don't think-
Middle school was like...
What do you remember from middle school?
That you were just goofy.
And I feel like I was a goofy kid too, but
like you were on another level.
Like, who is this kid? Like, girl, go away!
randomly, like, ran into each other,
I don't know if it gave confidence
it just gave, like, you knew yourself.
like me in high school was very like
And then, I mean, seven years now.
it was so unexpected but like,
and, and like, nerve wracking.
everybody on my phone when you were like,
I was like: Jasmyn said yes?!
when I say I probably called anybody
And then all my friends were like:
honestly, they were like: “Thank God”,
because we’re sick of this.
I just like my heart, you know, like,
Oh it is. - Yeah, it is yours.
What do you think has shaped me the most
to be ready for this relationship?
We just talked about this.
and your divorce has shaped you the most.
that us being together seven years ago,
you just didn't have the communication
You needed to go through things
or mature or just kind of focus on you.
But I definitely think that your marriage
you to be ready for this relationship,
because it made you also realize
to the person you married.
And I think it made you realize, like,
this is where you want to be
you've done like... like you've been doing
everything that you need to do
You've changed so many things that
have been previous issues for us
So I think that you had to go through that
and then therapy, you needed that.
We both did, we both did, but- - Shout-out to therapy.
I feel like you just have
now to communicate with me.
So many great resources to just
be present in this relationship now.
Yeah. - I'm glad you agree.
You didn't have a choice.
If you could go back and change
anything about our relationship,
what would it be and why?
I'm so excited to hear this answer.
What would it be and why?
I wish that I had the tools to be alone,
like during us and after us.
just like finding whoever
I could fill my space with. Right?
And then that led me to being
and just not liking to be alone.
and so I think had I been able to deal
it's like it was like a number of things,
like being afraid to be alone,
feeling like unproductive,
feeling anxious when I'm alone,
like always trying to distract my time.
I think I also then would have known
Versus like sitting in it.
You thought you'd get over me?
But yeah, like, you know,
like when you feel the feelings
and you allow yourself to sit with them.
I think that it allows you
to be present within yourself
like I do that now and then
that's how I probably ended up
because I know what I want.
How do you think- wait, how do you think...
how do you think what happened in
our past is limiting our future?
I wouldn't say I'm scared,
but I'm definitely like... not scared.
I don't know what the feeling is but
I would love to marry you.
I'd love to be with you forever.
Like not saying you don't give me the best.
Just like I deserve better since that
I'm not your second wife.
I am your love of your life.
I am not your second wife. - Yeah.
And that's what I would be.
from our past is limiting our future.
The more I think about it,
like it's immature of me.
So you- - Grow up and get past that.
Of course. - Oh, okay, then we're good.
Because then I’d be ruining my own happiness.
is presently the biggest challenge
And what is that offering us?
have created an insecurity
And I think that I'm aware of it.
So, like, when you trip or like
when I see that you're feeling a way
like I give the space for it
because I know that it's not me
and I know that I wouldn't do anything
intensify those feelings.
the space to grow and allows
a love that you can feel safe in
and that you can feel confident knowing
like those insecurities won't get,
you know, brought up or acted on.
And so I think that, yeah, it allows
like safe, healthy, pure love for you.
because I definitely feel-
It is very safe and comforting.
This you’re going to be like: ‘Oh.’
What does my love feel like?
Isn’t that good? That's good.
You want a tissue? No tissue? Okay. Alright.
It makes me feel comforted
That's why I say it feels like a sunset.
I tell you our love is like a sunset.
what would you never want me to forget?
It would never be our last conversation.
I’ll make sure to leave a voicemail
or like 12 of them or something.
But I probably would do something-
like one for each year: ‘Hey girl!’.
Like if that last one was the last one,
you deserve everything you want
that doesn't have to come
but like, have that for yourself, too.
accept that and I trust it
I would never want you to forget it
like the love I have for you
and that like you always have a space
And don’t let anybody tell you different.
to your significant other?
Check out Couple's Edition at
